It is amazing how time flies! Before the year ends, I would like to share with My admirers something close to My heart. This was inspired by a post on NUSWhispers regarding what’s on their schedule for the day/week based on their career, and Ms Euryale Elis’s recent Twitter poll on how much Professional Dommes around the world invest in their business.
Professional Domination as a Career Path or Hobby?
Every time I had to explain to a vanilla person what I do for a living, do I really consider Domination as a job? Most people would assume that a Dominatrix gets paid to cane men. To be honest, I can count how many submissives I met that requires Me to pick up the cane. I keep track of who I met since day one when I started out as a Professional and remember what they are into (or not) by memory. At the end of the day, I don’t feel like I am working because a lecturer once told Me she never worked a day because she enjoys what she does.
Things are completely different as compared to working in a commercial dungeon/brothel where you have to be present physically on your shift regardless of whether you have clients (or not) to account for walk-ins. There are pros and cons to consider for this arrangement. One disadvantage of this is that a portion of your tributes will be paid to the owner of the location.
It may be controversial when it comes to how long/duration when it comes to years of experience. Personally, I feel months/years you’re not active as a Professional does not count towards your years of experience. It gets Me very sceptical, not just in Domination but also in other industries when they claim to have x amount of years of experience but that’s not the main thing they do or is inconsistent. As much as I don’t do professional sessions every single day (I will be really jaded if that happens), I never took more than a month’s break from meeting someone professionally for the past (almost) six years.
A phrase comes to My mind:
“Turning your passion into a career”.
Will I ever get jaded with being a Professional Dominatrix especially when I hold on to a 24/7 D/s lifestyle with My personal sub? As an independent, I have the luxury to control what works well for Me. My past relationship with My ex-cat during My teen years was a subtle D/s dynamic. W/we sort of knew what BDSM was but never dive deeper into it. When I go to workshops years after, it made Me recall that whatever I did felt natural without any books to guide Me but it was the core of an ideal D/s relationship. Why did it end? Like any other relationship, there is a common goal to work towards. I am a constant high-achiever individual and it is a world apart to be with someone who doesn’t work equally as hard as you. Just like any typical Singaporean, most just strive to live by enough. I respect that but that’s not how I was raised.
Some of you may have such experiences or encounters that you have a liking or habit of something even as early as childhood but as you grew older, you realised that it is a kink or fetish in the BDSM world such as cross-dressing as a female or admiring feet. Perhaps, growing up in a household where it is a Matriarchy system, you respect Woman more and worship them.
Why do I choose to start Professionally?
I don’t want to be just another fetish provider in Singapore and that’s what sets Me apart from the rest. I do what I really want rather than ticking off the checklist of any men who approach you to fulfil their fetishes or desires. Sure, you can earn more from that but I would rather earn less and be true to Myself. There’s nothing wrong with being a fetish provider – To each of their own but that isn’t who I am or aspire to be.
Most importantly, having explored the BDSM lifestyle and Female Led Relationships (FLR) in private, with the realisation of how well it suits Me, I then decided to challenge Myself by learning how much more there is out here in the world of Professional Dominatrices and honed My skills. Those who would love to serve Me for all that I am but are unable due to personal commitments such as work or family life. W/we can still connect with one another on a captivating and satisfying new level, even if you are not able to offer Me 24/7 devotion like some might desire to give their Goddess.
Backstory: I was trying for another attempt to find a sugardaddy and I can no longer sleep with them or follow exactly what they expect from you. I shared previously that My first sugardad encounter didn’t work out because My potty mouth accidentally Small Penis Humiliate (SPH) him when I saw it. To summarise, sexual penetration or intimacy doesn’t turn Me on and has never since day one due to female circumcision. However, I still have that afterglow whenever My session ends and be admiring Myself in the mirror looking so foxy after play even without Me having to ejaculate or having sex, literally.
Anyway, someone tried to recruit Me to join his army of Dommes but he didn’t think I was pretty enough for the Singapore market. Some of the existing/retired Ladies might know who he is. Of course, I went solo instead, seeking guidance from a long-time forum acquaintance and working My way up. I am blessed with My vanilla skill sets but it also means I need to put in more effort than the rest who have connections.
Not to forget, My former husband never believed I could be Dominant because he was comparing Me with a long-time acquaintance of ours who is a ProDomme. He didn’t think I would be successful either and would just do this short term. I can safely say that She and I have different styles of Domination. This goes back to what people would think a stereotypical Professional Dominatrix would do. Because of her, I knew being a ProDomme in Singapore was doable even back in 2012/2013.
A Slow Climb Up
Some of My long-time admirers know that I run a Tumblr blog and would have seen how much I grew over the years. I cannot fathom how far I’ve reached and never in My life dreamt of this.
It’s true, I’m not pretty enough for the Singapore market because I do not fit into the beauty standard but My angmoh (Caucasian) subs gave words of affirmation that I am absolutely gorgeous and intelligent but unfortunately, not many locals appreciate it.
Thankfully, I met My personal cat sub through Fetlife. He approached Me when I was a nobody – Not even before I debuted as a Professional. Yet, he believed in Me both in vanilla and kink. W/we don’t stay together but W/we live a 24/7 dynamic. The image below is O/our first play date and where it all began.
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